Thanks for following up again. Very much appreciated! You can imagine what a terrible problem this is.
I have been taking agmatine for 6 months now for its NO boost. So only when I hit the gym. The increase in pump is very noticeable. Only recently I read that it has nootropic capabilities, with anxiety reduction being one of its properties. So since a week, I changed my single big dose before the gym to multiple doses throughout the day every day. But I haven't noticed many effects yet. Though I might be the wrong person to judge, differing between crippling anxiety and somewhat less crippling anxiety is not that easy.
Yes, in the morning I can take ages to finish, with or without partner. In the evenings it's the other way round. Also with or without.
I forgot to mention the zinc that I take in my regimen. I take ZMA before I go to sleep. I also found multiple articles about autistic people needing a lot of extra zinc because of copper dominance. So I'm going to up that and spread it through the days. Just to see what happens. When I google about PE and high cortisol I see contradicting stories though. Some say high cortisol slows men down. Other say high cortisol and anxiety just cause to speed things up. Still worth it to test the zinc out.
Its not so much the cortisol itself that delays it, but the cascading adrenaline that comes with cortisol. I would however get your zinc/copper levels checked to verify the high copper theory.
I have personally noted that any time I take something the causes rebound high norepinephrine/adrenaline levels that it can delay me in getting off. Such as my daily high dose ginkgo(for NRI effects), a night time dose of lithium orotate causes rebound in the morning, even when I tested low dose abilify for the first 2 weeks I would get morning high adrenaline response that would either make me not even want to get off, or make it take longer.
the same effect can be attained with a dose of adderall, but not as heavily with Vyvanse. Probably due to l-amphetamine having more effect on the adrenergic system.
What I would def suggest as trials, as noted earlier, is to take something in the morning to reduce cortisol to see if that reduces time to get off. Or conversely take something in the evening that raises cortisol to see if that delays time.
Morning recommendations for a trial would be along the lines of low dose ashwagandha, or zinc as I said before. Potentially Gotu Kola as that is less sedating for most compared to ashwagandha.
Evening trial would be simply coffee, or rhodiola, as it does reduce cortisol, but dose also raise adrenaline via comT inhibition.
Recommendations are based solely on commonality of use of products with long track records