the reason we pick our partner, it’s called the primal urge, the continuation of the species and its hard wired into us and has been since we left the rift valley,
man picks women as child bearers good looking well built women with big breasts that's why many men have fixation with breasts,
but it still comes down to their looks, that first look is what attracts us generally their face, but not always, we pick that person in less than a second, that's how long it takes for us to realise if we are attracted to them as a potential mate,
then we find out what they are like as a person, which can nowadays break the interest,
most men don’t actually like women they are there for two reasons still tied into the primal urge to have the kids and cook the food, and many men still look on women that way they may deny it but its part and parcel of continuing the species,
and why many men chase other women he is driven by his primal urge to make as many kids as he can, so hops from one female to the next monogamy is recent in mans and womens development living as a couple is recent compared to how long he has been on this planet
women pick men as providers the big hunter who will put food on the table, modern society has altered these things but it’s still there hard wired into them, women look for security even if that's just as a couple or for financial security, and will quite often pick someone even if he is not their first choice simply to have the protection they perceive as being part of a couple, like men's picking women its hard wired,
despite their protestations that they are not as bothered by looks as men they will also go for the tall well built guy it's part of their primal urge,
I was going to add my own info to this discussion but I see its already been said.
I believe this guy is the closest on the mark. If my opinion is of any value that is, I'm a pretty new contributor here and not entirely sure just how well I am doing.
I still think stress is a contributor though, especially between the ages of 15-30. But that is due to the modern worlds pressures.
When I was growing up I thought of sex as nothing but fun, I am a virgin though my viewpoint is still valid, to me it was a childish game. Little did I know that when I grew older I would have women screaming in my face telling me just how much of a disgusting human being I was for not taking some kind of personal responsibility for wanting and/or desiring sex. That to me was certianly stressful, to not only find out that women could be nasty and vicious to the point of wanting you to kill yourself, but also that sex was neither desirable nor warranted, and the guilt that I had for owning the equivalent to a lethal weapon in my pants.
All I know for sure is that I am polyamorous and pansexual for good reasons, I have come to terms inside my own mind with what I want, what my mind and my hormones want at least.
I would probably give up the desire of sexual drive (if I knew I could get it back at the drop of a hat, or the flip of a nanobot switch.) in favor for something more exciting like a good puzzle to solve or something else which would be more interesting than sex.
I wouldnt take any sterilization drugs though, I can control my own sexual desires quite well. Anti-depressants, Tobacco and Alcohol are doing a good enough job of sterilizing/impotence-izing men anyway.
It seems to me also that the act of mating is going to be going by the wayside in the future, as more and more people become aware of our severe overpopulation problem.
I know what the solution is though, robotics. I'm sure that a walking, talking, breathing robot that can be programmed to do whatever you like it to do will certianly bring down mens stress levels.
At least thats what I'm waiting out for if no women wants me that is.
And before anyone calls me a mysognist for what I believe in, well once when I was only a 10 year old kid I hit a girl on the legs with a tree branch, but not before she did it to me first, then she screamed for the teacher, so I was obviously the one who got in trouble. Eye for an eye dear. Thats what I believe in. Just because we're not as pretty as you and dont scream doesnt mean you should abuse us just because we're biologically male. It bloody hurt.
And just because you were spoilt by your parents doesnt mean you have to act like a child and remain mentally immature, there are other methods of attracting a male partner. and none of them involve implicating other people in things that you have done.
Frankly it would be better for us all to simply ignore the generation of women who act like idiots. and create a society of xenophobes like the Amish, where a philosophy of being good just for the sake of being good is held in value above all other values, including self profit.
I see on a regular basis how society has designed itself from the ground up to grind down my goals of living forever, everyone wants their cut of money and they are hellbent in making me pay with my own life. All I want to do is get some farmland and start growing my own food and build my own hut, then start learning about a wide variety of topics. Cant even do that without at least $50,000. And then I've gotta pay taxes for the rest of my life on that land.
Honestly, government, who the fuck do you think you are? You are taking away my right as a human being to inhabit a piece of land free of charge. Or rather, the people are, because the people are setting the value of land. Frankly the whole damn system is overburdened with too many damn people wanting the same land that I want. And joe the guy down the road wants, and that cute couple next door want. Overpopulation I have found is the root cause of a great deal of my burdens so far, including finding a potential mate. If there is less resources to go around then I am left with nothing.
I am a very tall guy, and on more than one occasion I have had a shorter guy "steal" the woman who I was interested in, but more than that, the woman wasnt even interested in me in the first place because I was too tall and therefore considered to be a freak. Or in her terms "I just dont think we would get along". I have never understood truly what is going on, I know that women want me and see me as a sexual object, but then society has taught me, drummed it into me, that seeing women as mere sexual objects as being wrong, its a god damn double standard. Right there is even more stress.
Religion is good in a way that it allows people to fall into the idea of getting married, and staying together, otherwise I think we would all probably just fuck all the time. Hormones are cruel in that way and frankly I will be glad to be rid of the whole idea of mating someday, I mean its certianly pointless isnt it when we've reached the population limit for this planet.
If you think stress isnt playing a part in my shortened life expectancy, then think again.
Edited by Layberinthius, 25 August 2013 - 12:51 PM.