Tilia tomentosa gemmo seroyal unda is the brand I use, works great.My opinion on daily olive oil is in order to have the most pronounced and desirable effect its better to take only when needed (6 hours before outing). My body quickly develops a tolerance to it so even the next day, the same dose has less impact (may be different for other people). I have found a different tolerance development rate for every method on the list and most of them become so tolerated eventually that they lose all noticeable effect, but others maintain a somewhat above baseline effect if the dose is high enough. I'll put them in order of which I find I most quickly build a tolerance to, meaning there is a much higher dose needed to get the same effect as the first dose in the shortest time. olive oil, stablon, curcumin, tilia tomentosa/progressive muscle relaxation, erase, dual n-back, shower. So the further down the list the more effective it can be daily.
I forgot to mention in my last post to increase the womans dopamine too. This can be done through mammalian rewards like high glycemic food, and novelty in any regard. Taking her to new restaurants that are very novel in their atmosphere or appearance, walks in a new (to her) part of the city, and even novel information like a new joke, or information that she did not know before (about people, science, languages, stories, countries... anything). There was a supplement I used to improve my recall of irrelevant interesting facts, I'll look through my notes for it, but it impacted ngf and bdnf.
Your questions are forcing me to flush out my ideas which is great so I have something concise to refer to in the future.
Now for methods of increasing her oxytocin in order of effectiveness.
Eliminate high cortisol in yourself. If it is high it will create a fight or flight response in both parties and suppress all oxytocin (cortisol and oxytocin have an inverse relationship).
Increase your own oxytocin
massage her (especially scalp, scalp massager toys are pretty good)
Stress/cortisol is increased by demands, so don't rush, push, force her, stress her out (these behaviours are adversarial and are an indication that your own cortisol and/or testosterone is too high. If your biology is optimized it will come off as a detached suggestion.), hot bath with epson salt (epsom salt proven to lower cortisol), hot tub, hot shower, be clean/groomed/smell good so, no fear of germs (my experience, not scientific), positive interaction, yoga and meditation, orgasm, see movie like a rom com, chocolate (preferably low caffeine), surprise/unexpected gifts (not expensive or thoughtful, just cute or funny like a teddy bear works), touch, like hand or arm holding while walking and other casual touching like moving hair from her face, hug, dance, sing, warmth like fluffy blankets and pillows on bed, soothing music, dim light or low in blue spectrum, incense (vanila or lavendar, maybe others too)
This list is mostly prioritized right but near the bottom the differences become less drastic. I regularly go on oxytocin binges with girls I see and its a much better experience than typical dating and many of these things can be done under the facade of a typical date if she happens to be traditional. I'd say 95% of my ideas are scientifically founded so if you doubt any just google the method with either the word oxytocin or dopamine and then add the word pubmed. I'm not a doctor or scientist.
Edited by alpal, 21 March 2014 - 07:07 AM.
